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Some people are additiced to the "chase". The feeling of getting to know someone you are attracted to, and knowing they are attracted to you is somewhat of a high. The first time you glace at each other, or hold hands, and especially that first kiss, can be an exciting adrenaline rush. You start doing things to get that other person to notice you.

Either way the pursuit of a new love can be very exciting. You have someone you are interested in but you are not sure if they are interested in you. You walk into a room where you feel they may be. What is the first thing that you do? You look around that room just hoping they will be there. Looking in every corner, at every face, you know they are there somewhere. Then finally you spot them and your heart starts racing, your palms start to sweat. How can I get close enough for them to notice me? Your mind starts thinking of ways to get their attention.

So you walk over to the area where they are and get as close as possible. Man they are gorgous. You finally muster up some courage to go say hi. The attraction, what a wonderful feeling. You find a place to talk and get to know each other a bit. You talk, laugh, and have great conversations. You are now on top of the world.

Then its time to go home. Its getting late and you just don't want to leave that person. You feel so good and so high you just don't want that feeling to end. But what goes up must eventually come down. Even though you exchange numbers and say goodnight, you will still feel that adrenaline for a while. How are you ever going to fall asleep.

That is the feeling that a lot of people are addicted to. The pursuit of that high feeling is why a lot of relationships fail. Don't get me wrong its a great feeling, especially if your feelings are reciprocated. But it is almost impossible to keep that feeling going in a true relationship.

A lot of people mistake attraction for love. True love is lasting and real. There are ups and downs. Try to keep you feet planted on the ground and take life as it comes. Don't try to force the issue, or devise ways to decieve someone into liking you and things will just happen naturally. It may not be with the person you thought you were in love with, it may be somone different but more suited to your personality.

Love yourself first and then others can love you too and it will happen naurally and without effort.

Debbie
ematchusa.com